Ladies, have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone close to you manipulated your thoughts until you started doubting yourself? Beware, as this could be a sign of gaslighting behavior, which often emerges in unhealthy relationships, whether romantic, friendships, family, or work-related. In this Newfemme article, we'll explore gaslighting and how to handle it.
What is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where an individual makes someone question their own sanity and perception. Those who experience gaslighting often feel confused, and anxious, and lose trust in themselves. The term "gaslighting" originates from a 1938 film titled "Gaslight," where a husband manipulates his wife into believing she's gone insane. Gaslighters often use phrases like "you don't understand what we're talking about" and shift the blame onto the victim, making them feel responsible for everything that goes wrong.
Identifying Gaslighting Behavior
Recognizing gaslighting behavior is the first step in addressing it. Sometimes, individuals are unaware that their actions constitute gaslighting, so it's essential to understand when it's happening to them.
Protecting Yourself
Being a victim of gaslighting can lead to self-doubt, anxiety, stress, and even depression. Limiting your exposure to the gaslighter is crucial to protect your mental well-being.
Open Communication
Don't hesitate to discuss the gaslighter's behavior openly. However, avoid direct accusations, as this may lead to arguments perpetuating the gaslighting cycle.
Conflict Avoidance
After addressing the issue, the gaslighter may become defensive and engage in arguments. It's advisable to avoid unnecessary conflicts and temporarily create some distance from the gaslighter.
Understanding gaslighting behavior is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and preserving mental health. Remember that choosing a healthy environment is an act of self-love. Don't hesitate to distance yourself from people who make you doubt your worth and self-esteem.